2013: That’s the way the cookie crumbles…


By ‘Femi Asu

About this time last year,when I was writing the piece below (which I have tweaked a little), I was at the crossroads. It was not an easy transition, having left my job and looking to get my foot in the door of an organisation where I can harness my journalistic potential. And to think that I was practically broke. That’s the way the cookie crumbles, but I counted my blessings. I focused on working towards achieving what I desired. It was a long, tortuous journey, but mission was eventually accomplished.In spite of challenges, I kept hope alive and persisted. Maybe or not your situation is captured below, I urge you to keep hope alive. This too shall pass!

It is that time of the year when most of us engage in retrospection. We ask ourselves, ‘what have I achieved this year?’ Some people end up plunged into depression because they feel there is nothing to hold dear.  For some, it is celebration galore because they feel it has been a wonderful year so far. Talk about different strokes for different folks. That’s life.

Just like yesterday,as the colloquialism goes, many of us started 2013 with fantastic resolutions,heart-warming wishes, beautiful plans, lofty dreams and audacious goals to achieve. Some of us built castles in the air, hoping to put the ground structure as the year progresses. But now that the year is as good as gone,what has your experience been? Which of these words readily sprang to mind:good, bad, ugly or beautiful?

How have you fared this year? Do you feel the year has dealt you more blows than the blessings it has delivered to you? Do you feel you have had more than your fair share of challenges and trials? Are you finding it hard to stop worrying about the missed opportunities, the dashed hopes, the unrealised (or yet-to-be-realised)dreams, or your ‘air castles’ that collapsed like a pack of cabin biscuits?

Maybe your many job applications have yet to translate to employment or you lost your job. Or, maybe, like me in 2012, you were so ‘crazy’ that you jettison your job and joined the job-seekers’ lot!  That’s the way the cookie crumbles; count your blessings anyway. Maybe your planned wedding couldn’t hold for some unpalatable reasons. That’s the way the cookie crumbles;count your blessings anyway.

Maybe your fiance or fiancee used a sledgehammer to break your heart into smithereens! That’s the way the cookie crumbles; count your blessings anyway. Maybe you failed an exam that you gave your very best to, maybe your best wasn’t good enough. That’s the way the cookie crumbles; count your blessings anyway. Maybe you had a miscarriage,a still birth, or lost your baby after birth. That’s the way the cookie crumbles; count your blessings anywhere.

Maybe you lost your loved one(s) to Boko Haram bombs, plane crash, road accident, sickness,disease, or whatever it is. That’s the way the cookie crumbles; count your blessings anyway.

Maybe you lost a fortune and now you are almost flat broke. That’s the way the cookie crumbles;count your blessings anyway.  Maybe your friends deserted you when you needed them most. That’s the way the cookie crumbles; count your blessings anyway.

Maybe, in this festive season, you have chosen to be in a pensive mood. Sulking mode activated.  Please take a pause and ponder awhile. Instead of thinking of the few things that make you unhappy in the year, why not relive the wonderful moments? Or, don’t you think you should be thankful for small mercies? You know it could have been worse, don’t you? Would you rather cry over the crumbled cookie or count your blessings?

As the familiar refrain goes, when there is life, there is hope. 2014 is almost upon us. God willing, the end of 2013 will not be the end of life for us. Friend, so long as you are still alive, I urge you to keep hope alive. If I may borrow the words of Barack Obama, “I’m not talking about blind optimism, the kind of hope that just ignores the enormity of the tasks ahead or the roadblocks that stand in our path.


“I’m not talking about the wishful idealism that allows us to just sit on the sidelines or shirk from a fight. I have always believed that hope is that stubborn thing inside us that insists, despite all the evidence to the contrary, that something better awaits us so long as we have the courage to keep reaching, to keep working, to keep fighting.”


How prepared are you to pursue your dreams, goals and heart’s desires?  What do you plan to do differently to achieve them in 2014?

NOTE: This piece was originally written and published in December 2012.


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