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The legacy my father left

FEMI ASU

“I believe that what we become depends on what our fathers teach us at odd moments, when they aren’t trying to teach us. We are formed by little scraps of wisdom,” Umberto Eco in Foucault’s Pendulum

Happy Father’s Day!

Last night I was listening to the weekly address of the president of the United States, Barack Obama, and it reminded me of the legacy my father left.

When he passed on last year, I knew I had lost a formidable father, a masterly mentor and a terrific teacher.

He was a father full of care, love, humility, generosity and understanding. He made so positive an impact on me that I can’t forget him in a hurry!

He did not only tell us the value of living a good life, of prayer and of meditating on the word of God, he showed us by his own example.

He was a stickler for knowledge, excellence and personal development. Though he did not have the chance to receive formal education in the four walls of a school, he was so committed to personal development that he was able to read and write.

Amid overwhelming odds, he strove to give his family his best. To be sure, his good example and the good name he left are the legacy I will always cherish and emulate.

“I know how important it is to have a dad in your life, because I grew up without my father around. I felt the weight of his absence,” President Obama said. “So for Michelle and our girls, I try every day to be the husband and father my family didn’t have when I was young.”

Stressing the need for fathers to get more involved in their children’s lives, Obama said: “What makes you a man isn’t the ability to have a child; it is the courage to raise one.

”There is nothing more precious in life than the time we spend with our children. There is no better feeling than knowing that we can be there for them and provide for them…”

Over the past couple of years I have met with a lot of young people who don’t have a father figure in their lives, said Obama, “Any of us can do our part to be a mentor, a sounding board, a role model for a kid who needs one…Taking responsibility for being a great parent or a mentor is a choice that we as individuals have to make. No government programme can ever take the place of a parent’s love.”

Many years ago, the brother of Alfred Nobel died in Stockholm. But the newspapers got the name wrong as they concluded it was Alfred Nobel himself who had died, and wrote his obituary, which he read the next day. In Nobel’s premature obituary, he was remembered primarily for inventing dynamite, which had been responsible for the deaths of countless human beings in wars and conflicts around the world.

This obituary has such a shocking effect on Nobel that he immediately began rearranging his entire life to change his legacy and assure that his obituary, when it was ultimately written, would be completely different. To this end, he established the Nobel Prizes, based on his great fortune, which are today the highest awards that can be attained in the worlds of literature, medicine, science, economics, peace and chemistry.

By thinking clearly about the legacy he wanted to leave, he transformed both his present actions and his ultimate memory. He rewrote his own obituary.

“A father acts on behalf of his children by working, providing, intervening, struggling, and suffering for them. In so doing, he really stands in their place. He is not an isolated individual, but incorporates the selves of several people in his own self,” said Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

Once again, Happy Father’s Day!

‘FEMI tweets @asufemi

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Brian Tracy in Nigeria tells ‘why some people are more successful than others’

…says every rung on the ladder of success is a new skill that is learnable

‘FEMI ASU

Brian Tracy, one of America’s leading authorities on the development of the human potential and personal effectiveness, on Sunday highlighted what makes the difference between highly successful individuals and others to an elated audience in Nigeria.

Speaking at Daystar Christian Centre in Lagos, the author of best-selling books including ‘Eat That Frog!’ and ‘Maximum Achievement’ said he was born into a poor family and had to set out on the quest as to why some people are more successful than others. In his determined bid to unravel the secrets, he read 66 books on the subject.

“They are more productive; they get more result and they make contribution to the world,” he said of people who are more successful. “If you want to get more from what you do, put more into it.”

On the ladder of success, he said, every rung is a new skill that will help you get more results. “You have more potential than you can use up in your lifetime. You can learn any skill,” he added.

With more skills, you get better, he said, adding that people who are more successful “keep getting better and climb the ladder of success.”

Tracy said the most important quality for success is focus. “If you can focus, you can achieve anything.”

Stating that technology is one of the greatest enemies of success today as it has huge capacity to distract, he said one of the greatest secret of success is to “leave things off; disconnect. Focus on the most important thing. You have to set priorities and focus on those things to get results.”

Task completion – starting and finishing a task – is another quality of people who are more successful than others. “All success comes from task completion,” he said.

Joy is as a result of doing something that improves your life, said Tracy. “Every time you complete a task it makes you happy.”

Successful people are those who have the habit of starting and completing a task, he said, even as he stressed the need to pray to God about one’s desires.

Speaking about the importance of clarity, he said: “If you are clear about what you want, you will start to attract all the resources and people you need to achieve it.”

Writing down goals also set successful people apart from others. “When you write down a goal with your hand, it will be programmed in your subconscious mind.” Quoting Henry Ford, he said any goal can be achieved if you break it down into small tasks.

“Be clear about what you want and focus on that one thing until you get result. What is your most important goal right now?” Tracy challenged the audience. “To achieve the goal you have not achieved before, you need a new skill. Ask yourself ‘which one skill we help me most to achieve my goal?’”

He added: “Be clear about your goals; be clear about the most important skills you need and be clear about the most important tasks that you can do to achieve your goals.”

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