By Shannon Panzo
My own experiences have forged my step-by-step progression from failure to success. I have learned to value failure and appreciate success. I have found that my biggest failures in life have led to my greatest successes. These are the steps I take when overwhelming adversity strikes in my life. I look forward to sharing this hard-earned secret with you.
My story started when my wife and I decided to diversify into a different business. The money needed to support the project came from our property equity over and above our ‘comfortable’ payments. Walking the “path” with all the positive thoughts in the world, we were given a multitude of promises and guarantees, even in writing. We were about to learn a big and expensive lesson.
At the end of the day, we felt much betrayed. The business that would fund the extra payments and more became a ‘money pit’. People that vowed to come to our aid turned a blind eye to us. We were left utterly alone to deal with our problems.
Justifiably so – we created these problems. They were ours to solve.
I have learned along the way that failure is riddled full of success, if you open your eyes to it. Even though most people would count our venture as failure, it was the start of our ‘adventure’ to get a grip, and swing it all back around. Objectively speaking, it is our finest moment.
To come back from this type of overwhelming adversity in the present economic climate is utterly amazing. So many things that could have sunk our battleship along the way have not presented themselves. We dealt with situations that came up. But, we always seemed to come up on top. We have been blessed time and time again.
The Fight is Engaged:
If you find yourself at the bottom of the stack and you are retching because you feel that you have been kicked in the gut from all directions – that is where we were. We decided to ‘fight’! But we decided to fight in a different way. We decided to take advantage of the many years I was teaching others Brain Management to pull oneself out of the wringer. It was time for me to employ the same methods myself. Here are just some of the things we did:
FOCUS – We decided what we wanted – our ‘target’ at the end of the tunnel we could focus on achieving. (We verified our target with subconscious feedback to make sure that it is in our Divine Order.) Even when you are compelled to take care of other things that crop up, you still need the determination to go right back to your focus. Your focus on the target will become so severe, that nothing will get in the way. You may lose some of the battles along the way, but you don’t lose the war.
FORGIVE – Most people don’t like the idea that someone has betrayed you or gotten something over on you, if you don’t forgive them without reservation; it keeps draining your energy. At these critical times, you need all the energy you can muster, and more. So, yes, we forgave them.
We also forgave ourselves. This step is just as important. Whether you feel you were to blame does not matter. Just making sure that energy path is clear can make all the difference, and often does.
INFORMATION – Information, or the lack thereof, can be critical for the decision-making process. To support decisions you must gain access to a tremendous amount of information in a very short amount of time. Reading, even speed reading takes too long.
DIRECTION – What direction we were going to take to accomplish our goal? We programmed and prayed for the guidance and strength to see us through. Whether it be God or Universal Consciousness, we accept the cards we have been dealt and we have taken up the gauntlet to create the path to reach our objective.
PAIN – By accepting pain will be associated with our chosen path, we gain a certain amount of clarity and a sense of control over our environment, while reaching our primary goal. Pain comes in many different forms–our biggest pain was financial.
PASSION – Fully accept it and embrace it – all of the lessons, successes, and failures alike to achieve your objective. We personally have many driving forces to keep on track. Some of these have emotional ties. If you need to gain this, then create it. You will find, if your objective is important enough, the emotional ties will already be there – and they will be STRONG.
“That which does not kill you, makes you Stronger!” Neitzsche
LAW OF ATTRACTION – Working within the Law of Attraction and eliminating as much information that is contradictory to achieving our objective. If you used to watch TV shows with negative content, turn them off. If people are not supporting your decision as to how you have been guided and chosen, then limit your communications with them. You will find that good intentioned friends and relatives are the first to suggest for you to give up because it’s too hard. They are NOT you, and they are not walking your path. The people you choose to gather around you in times of need can be scrutinized by this:
“If they are not part of the solution, then they are part of the problem.”
Whenever you are the person within the struggle, EVERYTHING matters. Every piece of information, especially from loved ones, counts. But you cannot afford to be persuaded off your path if you want to achieve your goals.
LEARN – Learn from your mistakes. Do your best not to fall into the same trap. When you traverse failure, you learn lessons. When you apply those lessons learned, you gain wisdom and success. Never stop learning.
OPPORTUNITY – When 1 door shuts, 100 others open! You must be ready for these opportunities. They have been our life-saver in rough seas. It wasn’t just 1 opportunity; it was and is many combined to create a cumulative effect. The momentum keeps growing. If one thing starts dropping off, something else picks up. It all takes good focused effort. You still need to participate if you are ever going to reach your goal. If the goal is not worth your participation, it is not a worthwhile goal.
So, with those hard-learned tips in mind, I urge you to raise yourself up, you’re your focus, and never give up on reaching your objectives. Know that you will gain your goals, too.
Have a Great Journey!
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By Peter BREGMAN
I was late for my meeting with the CEO of a technology company and I was emailing him from my iPhone as I walked onto the elevator in his company’s office building. I stayed focused on the screen as I rode to the sixth floor. I was still typing with my thumbs when the elevator doors opened and I walked out without looking up. Then I heard a voice behind me, “Wrong floor.” I looked back at the man who was holding the door open for me to get back in; it was the CEO, a big smile on his face. He had been in the elevator with me the whole time. “Busted,” he said.
The world is moving fast and it’s only getting faster. So much technology. So much information. So much to understand, to think about, to react to. A friend of mine recently took a new job as the head of learning and development at a mid-sized investment bank. When she came to work her first day on the job she turned on her computer, logged in with the password they had given her, and found 385 messages already waiting for her.
So we try to speed up to match the pace of the action around us. We stay up until 3 am trying to answer all our emails. We twitter, we facebook, and we link-in. We scan news websites wanting to make sure we stay up to date on the latest updates. And we salivate each time we hear the beep or vibration of a new text message.
But that’s a mistake. The speed with which information hurtles towards us is unavoidable (and it’s getting worse). But trying to catch it all is counterproductive. The faster the waves come, the more deliberately we need to navigate. Otherwise we’ll get tossed around like so many particles of sand, scattered to oblivion. Never before has it been so important to be grounded and intentional and to know what’s important.
Never before has it been so important to say “No”. No, I’m not going to read that article. No, I’m not going to read that email. No, I’m not going to take that phone call. No, I’m not going to sit through that meeting.
It’s hard to do because maybe, just maybe, that next piece of information will be the key to our success. But our success actually hinges on the opposite: on our willingness to risk missing some information. Because trying to focus on it all is a risk in itself. We’ll exhaust ourselves. We’ll get confused, nervous, and irritable. And we’ll miss the CEO standing next to us in the elevator.
A study of car accidents by the Virginia Tech Transportation Institute put cameras in cars to see what happens right before an accident. They found that in 80% of crashes the driver was distracted during the three seconds preceding the incident. In other words, they lost focus — dialed their cell phones, changed the station on the radio, took a bite of a sandwich, maybe checked a text — and didn’t notice that something changed in the world around them. Then they crashed.
The world is changing fast and if we don’t stay focused on the road ahead, resisting the distractions that, while tempting, are, well, distracting, then we increase the chances of a crash.
Now is a good time to pause, prioritize, and focus. Make two lists:
List 1: Your Focus List (the road ahead)What are you trying to achieve? What makes you happy? What’s important to you? Design your time around those things. Because time is your one limited resource and no matter how hard you try you can’t work 25/8.
List 2: Your Ignore List (the distractions)
To succeed in using your time wisely, you have to ask the equally important but often avoided complementary questions: what are you willing not to achieve? What doesn’t make you happy? What’s not important to you? What gets in the way?
Some people already have the first list. Very few have the second. But given how easily we get distracted and how many distractions we have these days, the second is more important than ever. The leaders who will continue to thrive in the future know the answers to these questions and each time there’s a demand on their attention they ask whether it will further their focus or dilute it.
Which means you shouldn’t create these lists once and then put them in a drawer. These two lists are your map for each day. Review them each morning, along with your calendar, and ask: what’s the plan for today? Where will I spend my time? How will it further my focus? How might I get distracted? Then find the courage to follow through, make choices, and maybe disappoint a few people.
Source: Harvard Business Review
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